My ISD is better than yours.

My School District is better than yours!

 Does that mean that your better than me because my kid doesn't go to a top rated school district? I have recently been bothered by this topic of discussion since my child entered pre-school. I have been in many mommy play dates and this would be the first question that was asked. 1. Where do you live, and 2nd is that a good school district? My answer would be Irving and I guess its a good one? Why does that matter and who does that benefit? The idea that moms are comparing their kids education to others is something that bothers me a lot. I have seen parents feel a sense of pride that they bought a home in the most desired school district in Texas and that their kids are getting a better "education". 

When I am faced with those comments I honestly don't know how to react. It makes me feel that I am not trying hard enough as a parent to get my kids a better "education" in a desired school district. It has made me put tons of pressure on my  husband to find a job elsewhere or make more money because we are not like the "Jones". Why so much pressure on myself and my husband to try and fit in when we clearly can't at the moment. This has lit a fire under me to be extremely involved in my child's education. 

We as parents need to stop comparing our lives to others and look down on others trying their best to make it out here. A school district that's not in the desired zip code should not be cast out into the abyss and leaving the kids and parents feeling ashamed. Parents who send kids to school should feel proud at the fact that a teacher is there for their child teaching them to be great citizens and great learners. My opinion is that an educator no matter where you send your child will show kindness to them, when some might not receive it at home.

I know that some schools perform low on standardized tests and that's bad in itself. But come on people,sometimes we need to step back and look at the family situation some of these kids find themselves in. Most of the time its a single family home and the father is not present in the home. The mom is forced to work multiple jobs and the kids are shuffled between daycares. This of course has an impact on the way a child can learn but it shouldn't be an excuse. If a child goes to school hungry and that student most likely will be unable to perform. The focus is how can we make these families whole again. Something is missing, and that's one of the many problems that these kids face on daily basis. I'm sick and tired of this nonsense of why the school is under performing. Compare that to a family attending a school in great school district and the life that child has. Most likely its a two parent home with a modest income and many more resources and contacts. That child is automatically set up to perform well and be held to that standard. 

This is the problem to me. Mommy groups need to stop putting themselves better than the next and instead, be glad that your child is not starving and stressed because they live below the poverty line. This battle between who has the best school will continue to go on, not just here in Dallas but across the country. We pride ourselves on being better than each other and what other way can that be done is " Where do you live and what school district are you sending your kids too". If we can move past that, then we can stop comparing and have many more ideas on how we can better our neighbor who may be a single mom trying to get by. Because I know that mom wants the best for her child. I am a product of a divorced home and raised by a single mom who was asked that question " Where do you live". I don't ever want that to be first question, but better yet how can we develop a Christ centered home and build on from that! 

Thank You
In_dfw Family


  1. I agree. I think any school can be good where the parents are involved with the teachers to foster a good learning environment for the students. As far as being in the "best school district" it doesn't guarantee that your child will get a stellar education. It's all about the parents being involved in their children's lives and there a several examples of this; also it is indicative of what Christ and Paul said it is so important to be content in any state that you are in and be the best husband, wife, parent, person you can be and raise your children with values. Here are some uplifting words:

    Philippians 4:11-13 Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content. 12I know both how to be abased, and I know how to abound: every where and in all things I am instructed both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need. 13I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.

  2. It's true! We as parents need to be included and involved in the class rooms! This is a valid argument! I noticed when I am helping out I feel more connected to the teachers and the school. Thanks for your bible verse and comment .